confidence in the real world…
what if my parents knew…
Is this cocktail of HRT going to kill me?
I am beautiful
but I am not ‘passable’.
in all the adversity:
A sharing session for transgendered, transsexual, crossdresser, intersexed, sistas … community. This is not a talk. Feel free to just drop in and listen but we would love for you to come forth and share your experiences and knowledge.
Sisters sitting in a circle, Sisters in Solidarity.
7.00pm – 9.00pm
The petition signing at Food#03 on 8 May 2010 2pm-6pm is a reach-out to end discrimination against transgenders in Singapore.
Marla Bendini was there to thank every SIS supporter who took time to come down despite the rain.
Tricia Leong was also there in the afternoon to lend her presence to the cause and also explained to visitors about discrimination against transgenders in Singapore.
Leona Lo is on a business trip and was with us in spirit.
We sisters at SIS would like to thank all 56 of you. You given us great moral support, dignity and most importantly, love. We hope you wear our SIS badges with pride.
After the petition, we had dinner with 5 more sisters who added their names to the cause!
We decided to unwind at a transgender-friendly bar called “Cows and Coolies” & “Dixies” and the owners and patrons added 39 more names to the petition!
Cows & Coolies| 30 Mosque Street | Mon-Thu 5pm-1am, Fri & Sat 5pm-2am
Dixie’s is just next door! Please support these transgender-friendly establishments!
In total, we have 100 exact signatures today, on top of the 116 online signatures so far!
We have 3 more petition signing opportunities to meet Marla Bendini and Tricia Leong in person:
13 May 2010 @ The Substation Gallery Conversations between father and son, art exhibition 6.30pm til late
14 -22 May 2010 @ The Substation Gallery Conversations between father and son, art exhibition 12pm-9pm daily
15 May 2010 @ PINKDOT 2010 Hong Lim Park 5.00pm-6.30pm
We Sisters in Solidarity hope to see you soon!
We need much more than that! Spread the word about discrimination against transgenders in Singapore and help make Singapore a better place for fellow FRIENDS & SISTERS.
Here are some comments from our supporters so far…
Adrian Lai : Customers are always RIGHT, esp they are paying to keep your business running…
Eileena Lee : Transgender women are women too!
Eveline How: Treat all women, including transgender women, with respect!
Kris Lee : Do NOT discriminate!!
Mike Phang: These ladies have every right to have a good time at nightspots and clubs
Wong Heng: Business should not perpetuate discrimination
David Seah: Ignorance is the root of all hatred and discrimination
Nicholas Leow Bullies are cowards.
Val : It is a pity that even modern society such as Singapore, transgendered people must suffer the ignorance of those who are so “blessed” not to suffer the anguish of being born in a gender that does not belong to you
Fanny Ler: Discrimination against Transgender womamn should be STOP worldwide, not just in Singapore… Transgender Women are NOT men but are WOMEN… It is in the BRAIN not between the LEGS…
Michael Larcombe: We are all human beings and all deserve respect.
OH AI NI IRENE: We should not support businesses which have discriminatory practices. This is also an opportunity to look at the marginalized groups in our society and how they are being treated.
Roy Tan: The media should also play an active role in fostering acceptance and non-discrimination of transgender people in Singapore.
Deborah Francini: To those who discriminate and preach hate against sexual minorities, I do feel sorry for your ignorance and bigotry. You think we have a problem but you certainly have a bigger one. To the management of ChinaOne and other similar establishments that have utter disrespect for their fellow humankind, while you clearly have “no balls” to do the right thing, do not expect all your patrons to have “no balls” like you – pun very much intended!
Quek Ser Ming: Let’s be upfront and honest. If nightspot and club operators have issues with the transgender, put prominent signs, so as to avoid unnecessary awkwardness. Transgenders are fellow human beings and deserve respect as well. Not to be the subject of humiliation by your bouncers and ‘unwritten’ rules.
Since the incident at ChinaOne, my sisters and I have been very busy with our educational campaign Sisters in Solidarity (SIS). It is apparent that there is much to do about educating people about transgender issues in Singapore. The press conference and media coverage as well as response from the public has shown that people do care about transgender individuals in Singapore. You can easily google “Sisters in Solidarity” or “Marla Bendini” to find numerous articles and discussions.
I am but one transgender woman. I will respond to and blog with regards to any misquotes and issues pertaining to transgender individuals in my own time. If you feel you need to express any opinions, please write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Right now, I will have to focus on my upcoming exhibition, “Conversations between father and son”.
I would like to take some time to thank the following media, independent writers and journalists:
蔡依桃, 新明日报 Shin Min Daily News
Thank you for kind consideration and respect as to using the correct pronouns when referring to me and my fellow sister, Ms Tricia Leong, as transgender women. This comes as a rarity amongst the disheartening disrespect and indifference some local media has shown towards transgender individuals despite my plea at the press conference held on 5th May 2010. I would also like to thank them for the kind photos of me that they’ve taken and chosen to publish, unlike the media reports that conveniently took pictures off my facebook or website and published them out of context.
“Referring to transgender people with the right pronouns — meaning the gender they identify with — is a huge gesture toward respect. It’s a slap-in-the-face to ignore how someone feels, dresses, and presents themselves to the world. It’s also a bit inaccurate to call someone who wears dresses and is known to all their friends as Candy as a man. Remember, it’s not our job to tell anyone they’re not really a man or woman, or they’re not doing it right.
Ask people if they go by “he” or “she” then refer to them that way. For those who are truly forward-looking, and believe in a spectrum of gender, there is a third option. In Australia, where recognizing a third gender was recently debated, try the gender neutral “ze.” – Jessie Torrisi article on Human Rights website, “Reporters: How to Get it Right on Transgender Issues”:
I apologise if I have left anyone out in this special mention. Sisters and dear readers, please kindly comment on this post and inform me if you know of any article and writer that deserves special mention here.
Buy our SIS’s badge at $2 each and support our cause this Saturday petition signing at Food#03.
Maybe it does take a simple badge pinned on ourselves to remind us what respect truly is.
For those who were unable to support us that day 🙂
But please do come support us this Saturday 2pm-6pm at Food#03!